My attention is drawn to the woman’s response to Jesus… “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?”
The key here is the seemingly insignificant phrase ask me for. On the surface, it would seem that she is questioning Jesus’ unusual request. Consider the cultural implications. No Jew would share a cup with a Samaritan. A Jewish man wouldn’t been seen talking to a woman in public, let alone a Samaritan woman. In fact, a Jewish man would not even talk in the street with his mother, his sister, his daughter or even his wife! There was even a group of Pharisees known as the “bleeding and bruised” Pharisees, because when they saw a woman approaching in the street, they would close their eyes. They got their name because they were always walking into things!
And yet here we find Jesus, a Jewish Rabbi, asking a Samaritan woman for a drink. What is significant about this phrase ask me for is the meaning behind it.
The Greek word is aiteo, and it literally means to ask for, to request, to beg. But it is the action of the word that is interesting, because it has the idea of a slave begging his master, or a subordinate appealing to his superior. Now that might not mean much, until you compare it to the other word which can be translated as ask. That word is erotao, which also means to ask or to request. The difference between the two is this… erotao is used when one appeals to a peer or a friend for something. It is the word used on every occasion that Jesus petitions His Father for something. Do see the implication here? Jesus, a Jewish man, asks for a drink of water from a Samaritan woman, with an attitude of humility and respect that one would expect to see from a slave to his master.
How extraordinary. With one short request, “Will you give me a drink?”, Jesus manages to cut through hundreds of years of hatred and suspicion. Just maybe, for the first time in her life, this woman at the well has been treated as a person of value. This opened the door to a conversation that allowed Jesus to show the woman who he really was, the promised Messiah.
This story raises some big questions for me personally. It also raises some big questions for the Church. One of those questions is this… How do I treat the people I come across in life? Do I see them as the enemy, as people to be avoided. Or do I see them as people who have value in God’s eyes?







